Recent Topics

[Today at 07:57:57 PM]

[Today at 06:16:43 PM]

[Today at 03:41:17 PM]

[Today at 03:16:44 PM]

[Today at 12:33:43 PM]

[Today at 12:27:07 PM]

[Today at 06:23:18 AM]

[Today at 01:21:48 AM]

[Today at 12:58:15 AM]

[October 21, 2019, 01:23:28 PM]

[October 21, 2019, 02:56:43 AM]

[October 20, 2019, 01:27:22 AM]

[October 19, 2019, 09:44:35 AM]

[October 16, 2019, 06:00:56 PM]

[October 16, 2019, 05:21:14 PM]

[October 16, 2019, 05:18:07 PM]

[October 16, 2019, 05:16:01 PM]

[October 16, 2019, 05:09:19 PM]

[October 15, 2019, 06:13:46 AM]

[October 15, 2019, 06:00:49 AM]

[October 15, 2019, 02:36:49 AM]

[October 12, 2019, 03:21:40 AM]

[October 10, 2019, 10:55:16 AM]

[October 09, 2019, 03:55:44 PM]

[October 09, 2019, 12:00:44 PM]

[October 07, 2019, 01:19:41 PM]

[October 07, 2019, 09:16:21 AM]

[October 07, 2019, 09:01:58 AM]

Talkbox

2019 Oct 22 22:30:35
Varado: May all beings realise the cessation of perception that leads to liberation

2019 Oct 22 14:05:14
Cheav Villa:  _/\_ _/\_ _/\_

2019 Oct 22 11:44:21
Johann: "eko care": the real, the highest eco care, climate protection

2019 Oct 21 13:53:58
Johann: eko care!

2019 Oct 21 13:10:14
Moritz: Chom reap leah _/\_ May all spend a good uposatha day. _/\_ _/\_ _/\_

2019 Oct 21 12:13:15
Johann: Meister Moritz

2019 Oct 21 12:12:45
Moritz: Bong Villa _/\_

2019 Oct 21 12:12:40
Moritz: Vandami Bhante _/\_

2019 Oct 21 11:10:14
Cheav Villa: Kana Bhante _/\_ _/\_ _/\_ Kana got the email _/\_ _/\_ _/\_

2019 Oct 21 06:14:10
Khemakumara: Sadhu and mudita _/\_ _/\_ _/\_

2019 Oct 21 04:24:03
Cheav Villa: Sadhu Sadhu  _/\_ _/\_ _/\_

2019 Oct 21 04:00:46
Johann: May all spend a meritful Siladay today

2019 Oct 20 11:27:41
Varado: I pay respects to the Venerable Indaññāno and the Noble Sangha. May you please consider me a Sanghamitta.

2019 Oct 20 11:17:39
Varado: I pay respects to Venerable Indaññāno.

2019 Oct 17 12:06:02
Moritz: Chom reap leah _/\_ May all have a kusala day _/\_ _/\_ _/\_

2019 Oct 17 11:51:37
Moritz: Bong Villa :) _/\_

2019 Oct 17 11:51:25
Moritz: Vandami Bhante Varado _/\_ _/\_ _/\_

2019 Oct 17 11:50:47
Cheav Villa: Vandami Bhante :) _/\_ _/\_ _/\_

2019 Oct 17 11:50:25
Moritz: Vandami Bhante Johann _/\_ _/\_ _/\_

2019 Oct 17 11:48:30
Johann: Nyom Moritz

2019 Oct 17 11:45:08
Johann: Nyom Villa

2019 Oct 17 11:44:00
Cheav Villa: Chum reap sur Master Moritz :D _/\_

2019 Oct 16 03:29:01
Cheav Villa: Vandami Bhante Ariyadhammika  _/\_ _/\_ _/\_

2019 Oct 15 15:28:14
Cheav Villa:  _/\_ _/\_ _/\_

2019 Oct 15 14:56:50
Johann: Nyom Villa said: May Brah Ang recover fast. May Oncle Chanroth recover fastl as well.

2019 Oct 15 14:49:29
Cheav Villa: សូមអោយពូចាន់រ័ត្មឆាប់ជាពីជម្ងឺដែរ   :D _/\_

2019 Oct 15 14:48:46
Cheav Villa: សូមអោយព្រះអង្គឆាប់ជាពីជម្ងឺ _/\_  _/\_ _/\_

2019 Oct 15 14:14:23
Johann: Chanroth said: At times Brah Ang has ābādhi (illness), I am also sick.

2019 Oct 15 13:24:21
Chanroth: ពេលព្រះអង្គមានអាពាធិ ខ្ញុំមានជំម្ងឺដែរ _/\_  _/\_ _/\_

2019 Oct 14 10:22:27
Cheav Villa: Bhante Varado  _/\_ _/\_ _/\_

2019 Oct 13 04:44:10
Cheav Villa:  _/\_ _/\_ _/\_

2019 Oct 13 01:17:17
Johann: Sadhu

2019 Oct 13 01:15:59
Khemakumara: May every living being in all realms be free from ever illness, free from danger, free from animosity and free from oppression.

2019 Oct 13 00:50:55
Khemakumara: may it be a path-and fruitful Uposatha Day

2019 Oct 12 15:40:31
Cheav Villa: May Bhante soon recover from malaria  _/\_ _/\_ _/\_

2019 Oct 12 13:47:46
Varado:  _/\_ _/\_ _/\_

2019 Oct 11 16:35:52
Cheav Villa:  _/\_ _/\_ _/\_

2019 Oct 10 10:55:45
Khemakumara: Nyom Cheav Villa

2019 Oct 10 10:54:11
Cheav Villa:  _/\_ _/\_ _/\_

2019 Oct 10 05:11:04
Khemakumara: _/\_ _/\_ _/\_ Bhante

2019 Oct 08 15:01:04
Vithou:  _/\_

2019 Oct 07 07:39:21
Johann: Good to hear

2019 Oct 07 05:48:11
Khemakumara: _/\_ _/\_ _/\_ Kana Bhante. may kana trust, that  prah  karuṇā dwells in kusalā  conditions in and outwardly.

2019 Oct 07 05:09:34
Johann: Bhante. All health and relaying on good outwardly and inwardly conditions?

2019 Oct 07 04:20:19
Khemakumara: _/\_ _/\_ _/\_ Bhante

2019 Oct 06 06:44:19
Cheav Villa:  _/\_ _/\_ _/\_

2019 Oct 06 06:24:49
Johann: Sadhu

2019 Oct 06 04:48:36
Khemakumara: something to give (in)? Today is waxing moon Uposatha! May it be a path- and fruitful give (in) day!

2019 Oct 06 04:37:01
Khemakumara:  *gift*

2019 Oct 02 16:38:31
Cheav Villa:  _/\_  _/\_ _/\_

2019 Oct 02 12:27:40
Khemakumara: Sadhu and mudita

2019 Oct 02 12:06:36
Johann: (U.Chanroth wrote in mudita: Today Buddhaparisada arrived at Ashram Thmo Duk)

2019 Oct 02 08:31:08
Chanroth: ថ្ងៃនេះពុទ្ធបរិស័ទ្ទមកដល់អាស្រមថ្មទូក _/\_ _/\_ _/\_

2019 Sep 30 06:49:48
Cheav Villa: Vandami Bhante  _/\_ _/\_ _/\_

2019 Sep 30 06:15:26
Johann: Nyom Villa

2019 Sep 29 05:35:53
Cheav Villa:  _/\_ _/\_ _/\_

2019 Sep 28 06:56:38
Johann: Nyom Chanroth wrote: "Natthi santi paraṃ sokhaṃ" No happiness higher then that of peace.

2019 Sep 28 04:22:03
Chanroth: នត្ថិ សន្តិ បរំ សុខំ

2019 Sep 28 04:06:00
Chanroth:   _/\_ _/\_ _/\_

2019 Sep 28 01:57:20
Khemakumara: _/\_ _/\_ _/\_

2019 Sep 28 01:40:27
Johann: A blessed and virtuous new-moon Uposata for those holding it today.

2019 Sep 26 01:28:41
Johann: Bhante

2019 Sep 26 01:17:26
Khemakumara: _/\_ _/\_ _/\_ Bhante

2019 Sep 23 05:39:08
Khemakumara:  _/\_ _/\_ _/\_

2019 Sep 23 05:24:36
Johann: Bhante, Bhante

2019 Sep 22 18:47:42
Johann: Kana needs to leave now for possible tomorrow again, Bhante. Much dhammic joy in further exploring here within. and a blessed halfmoon day.

2019 Sep 22 16:41:02
Johann: _/\_ Bhante Varado (batterie of mine will be off soon, just to inform)

2019 Sep 22 07:28:15
Johann: Sadhu

2019 Sep 22 03:26:27
Cheav Villa:  _/\_ _/\_ _/\_

2019 Sep 22 02:48:14
Khemakumara: may it be a path-and fruitful Uposatha Day

2019 Sep 22 02:48:14
Khemakumara: may it be a path-and fruitful Uposatha Day

2019 Sep 21 23:53:54
Vithou:  _/\_

2019 Sep 21 13:36:07
Cheav Villa:  _/\_ _/\_ _/\_

2019 Sep 21 09:37:51
Johann: A blessed and meritful Sila-day those who keep it today.

2019 Sep 20 07:29:23
Johann:  _/\_ Bhante Varado

2019 Sep 19 14:52:03
Johann: Bhante

2019 Sep 19 14:36:44
Khemakumara: Nyom saddhamma

2019 Sep 19 14:35:55
Khemakumara: _/\_ _/\_ _/\_ Bhante

2019 Sep 19 09:58:15
Cheav Villa:  _/\_ _/\_ _/\_ Bhante

2019 Sep 19 04:31:27
Khemakumara: Nyom Cheav Villa

2019 Sep 19 01:47:48
Khemakumara: _/\_ _/\_ _/\_ Bhante

2019 Sep 18 16:44:10
Johann:  _/\_ Bhante Ariyadhammika

2019 Sep 18 06:35:53
Khemakumara:  _/\_ _/\_ _/\_ Kana, Bhante and kana are well!

2019 Sep 18 06:32:01
Johann: Bhante  _/\_ Is he and Bhante well?

2019 Sep 18 04:25:43
Khemakumara: _/\_ _/\_ _/\_ Bhante

2019 Sep 18 04:10:57
Johann: Nyom Villa.

2019 Sep 18 02:48:47
Cheav Villa: Welcome, upasaka sadhamma _/\_

2019 Sep 18 02:47:31
Cheav Villa: Master Moritz _/\_

2019 Sep 18 02:47:15
Cheav Villa: Vandami Bhante _/\_ _/\_ _/\_

2019 Sep 18 01:59:53
Moritz: Good night _/\_

2019 Sep 18 01:59:44
Moritz: _/\_ Bong Villa

2019 Sep 18 01:41:47
Johann: Nyom Moritz

2019 Sep 18 01:30:08
Moritz: Welcome, upasaka sadhamma _/\_

2019 Sep 18 01:29:43
Moritz: Vandami Bhante _/\_ _/\_ _/\_

2019 Sep 14 01:20:37
Johann: (no problem at all) A blessed and meritful conducted Uposatha those observing it today.

2019 Sep 13 16:07:47
Cheav Villa: សុំទោស _/\_

2019 Sep 13 16:06:36
Cheav Villa:  _/\_

2019 Sep 13 15:53:17
Cheav Villa: Vandami Bhante _/\_ _/\_ _/\_ Bhante Varado _/\_ _/\_ _/\_

2019 Sep 13 15:51:32
Johann:  _/\_ Bante Varado. Nyom Morotz, Nyom Villa.

2019 Sep 13 15:50:03
Cheav Villa: Master Morit  :) _/\_

Tipitaka Khmer

 Please feel welcome to join the transcription project of the Tipitaka translation in khmer, and share one of your favorite Sutta or more. Simply click here or visit the Forum: 

Search ATI on ZzE

Zugang zur Einsicht - Schriften aus der Theravada Tradition



Access to Insight / Zugang zur Einsicht: Dhamma-Suche auf mehr als 4000 Webseiten (deutsch / english) - ohne zu googeln, andere Ressourcen zu nehmen, weltliche Verpflichtungen einzugehen. Sie sind für den Zugang zur Einsicht herzlich eingeladen diese Möglichkeit zu nutzen. (Info)

Random Sutta
Random Article
Random Jataka

Zufälliges Sutta
Zufälliger Artikel
Zufälliges Jataka


Arbeits/Work Forum ZzE

"Dhammatalks.org":
[logo dhammatalks.org]
Random Talk
[pic 30]

Dear Visitor!

Herzlich Willkommen auf sangham.net! Welcome to sangham.net!
Ehrenwerter Gast, fühlen sie sich willkommen!

Sie können sich gerne auch unangemeldet an jeder Diskussion beteiligen und eine Antwort posten. Auch ist es Ihnen möglich, ein Post oder ein Thema an die Moderatoren zu melden, sei es nun, um ein Lob auszusprechen oder um zu tadeln. Beides ist willkommen, wenn es gut gemeint und umsichtig ist. Lesen Sie mehr dazu im Beitrag: Melden/Kommentieren von Postings für Gäste
Sie können sich aber auch jederzeit anmelden oder sich via Email einladen und anmelden lassen oder als "Visitor" einloggen, und damit stehen Ihnen noch viel mehr Möglichkeiten frei. Nutzen Sie auch die Möglichkeit einen Segen auszusprechen oder ein Räucherstäbchen anzuzünden und wir freuen uns, wenn Sie sich auch als Besucher kurz vorstellen oder Hallo sagen .
Wir wünschen viel Freude beim Nutzen und Entdecken des Forums mit all seinen nützlichen Möglichkeiten .
 
Wählen Sie Ihre bevorzugte Sprache rechts oben neben dem Suchfenster.

Wähle Sprache / Choose Language / เลือก ภาษา / ជ្រើសយកភាសា: ^ ^
 Venerated Visitor, feel heartily welcome!
You are able to participate in discussions and post even without registration. You are also able to report a post or topic to the moderators, may it be praise or a rebuke. Both is welcome if it is meant with good will and care. Read more about it within the post: Report/comment posts for guests
But you can also register any time or get invited and registered in the way to request via Email , or log in as "Visitor". If you are logged in you will have more additional possibilities. Please feel free to use the possibility to  give a blessing or light an incent stick and we are honored if you introduce yourself or say "Hello" even if you are on a short visit.
We wish you much joy in using and exploring the forum with all its useful possibilities  
Choose your preferred language on the right top corner next to the search window!
[Buddha]

Author Topic: [Q&A] Permission of your parents in your renunciation  (Read 578 times)

0 Members and 1 Guest are viewing this topic.

Offline Johann

  • Samanera
  • Very Engaged Member
  • *
  • Sadhu! or +366/-0
  • Gender: Male
  • Date of ordination/Datum der Ordination.: 20140527
[Q&A] Permission of your parents in your renunciation
« on: February 26, 2018, 04:14:50 PM »
Quote from: Upasaka Kalpesh Mange on BSE
Permission of your parents in your renunciation

have thought about this since a long time, and now I am ready for renunciation, accept teachings and practise Buddhism in a monastery. I told my parents about these future plans. They said they were disappointed in me & that I was running away from my responsibilities & will ruin their and my life if I follow this path.

Since they've made me the person I am today, I feel the need to ask for permission before I leave. They won't allow me.

What would be the best way to solve this, maybe a middle path?

And also because of the question here , carefully, wise & compassioned and obligated answered by Upasaka Moritz . Sadhu!

Venerable members of the Sangha,
walking in front Fellows in leading the holly life.

  _/\_  _/\_  _/\_

In Respect of the Triple Gems, Buddha, Dhamma and Sangha, in Respect of the Elders of the community  _/\_ , my person tries to answer this question. Please, may all knowledgeable Venerables and Dhammika, out of compassion, correct my person, if something is not correct and fill also graps, if something is missing.

Valued Upasaka, Upasika, Aramika(inis),
dear Readers and Visitors,

 *sgift*


(Previous answer can be found here )

pasaka Kalpesh Mange, you told:

I have thought about this since a long time, and now I am ready for renunciation, accept teachings and practise Buddhism in a monastery.


That is a very praiseworthy way one sees one parents, Sadhu! And a notion of a good sense of gratitude and right view.

Ruben gave some information, which are at large not so wrong. How ever, take always away notions of "I have a right" or "it should be this and that". If it work not now, it will work by time. When your parents get more and more understood your ways, while practicing based on right view where you are, they are more likely to understand.

When it comes to a point where you are no more able to live a householders live, you parents will see that and seeing it, they will ask, beeing asked, is a good place to explain deeper and make things understood.

Since it contains a lot of stories, aside the rules of the Bhikkhus (not someones rights!), it's maybe worthy to give the Mahavagga I  an extended read.

Meanwhile, something to rejoice with , take part on merits: a certain person, just few days ago, joyfull shared his mothers now joyful agreement, with his soon going forth. Something really not common in regard of intented to really going forth, not just changing house with monastery, which is often really just a "seek for 'easy' life" and welness.

The case of the Buddhas son, and the grieve of his mother, and the request of Ven. Ananda, which was the reason for the rule not to give going forth, one who has no permission from the parents, was in regard of a Samanera and such as "Anagarika" does not exist within the Dhamma-Vinaya, but is actually also a Samanera (one who asked for going forth under the Buddhas teaching). So not only out of this, it's good to seek a good and proper way, not stubborn and proper to time and facts.

As told, if there are no more ways to live a housholders life, there will be ways anyway. It's possible not wrong at all if spending much and most time avalible in contact with the monks, try to make service and maybe it's possible to get your parents to attend often or part time.

At least, althought maybe not that welcome to hear/read, its always good to speak with good and possible also knowledgeable monks, at first place and if avaliable (which requires to let go of usuall "lazy" ways) in all Dhamma-Vinaya cases, specially in regard of ordination.

There are many personal things, which those could probably handle with, which "in all cases seen from outward"-accounts are not able to serve propably best. One would not easy find someone with real refuge in the Juwels in this spheres, which does on the otherside not mean that ones Nissaya does not have its ways anyway, if walking with pure heart and certain right view, sticking firm to the basics.

Best possible strength, effort and endure for success in regard of path, fruits and the mastering of the holy life, where ever being. Watching after giving good causes. Effects come by themselves, just a matter of crossing the soil for it, sooner or later.

Addition

My person has to add (just translating that part of the Mahavagga), that the Original wish after the rule, that those desire the going forth, need permission, to be faultless ordained by a Bhikkhu, was raised from Buddhas father and the rule does not cover only the acceptance as Bhikkhu, but also all other forms of going into homelessness, going forth (pabbājeyya) under the Buddha: eg. Samanera and technical Anagarika (who are actually Samanera) as well.

See: Rāhulavatthu - The Case of Rāhula .
This post and Content has come to be by Dhamma-Dana and so is given as it       Dhamma-Dana: Johann

Tags: