Sadhu!
Of all my person had read about Ven. Ñāṇavimala he seems to have lived the Holly Live and knows of what he talks.
My person wouldn't/doesn't give other advices and yes, it is "sad" that so many, having sacrified so much, go back and by time usually fall back into merely householders life become and are slaves of there monastic householder life and live like cattle and owner, owner and cattle in associations with housholders and improper dependency.
Althought sometimes not blood-relatives it's often the case that this relations outwardly the bondless relation of the ideal Sangha become their replacement family with no different to the ordinary householder pleasure and pain with it.
It's not easy and there are a lot of dangers but if living strict in accordiance with the Tudhong-rules, this is a certain protection.. One learns to cut through compassion and compassion, get's more and more seperated form ones defilements.
These practice and life requires the gain of the secound path minumum. It's not possible for ordinary people to live in such ways.
To meet such a person is very very rare and it's not all about the physical touch. But once has reached the stream by oneself one might be able to meet.
Which brings my person to another Question Nyom
gus had: "Are there still forest-traditions?" But that would be of topic here althought related.
Having walk thousands of kilometer, my person met only a handful trying and starting this mode of living and "funny" all of those he did not met on the road but they came one by one since the time my person settled here a little. Mostly younger eager Monks, very impressed, motivated and inspired by the "crazy foreigner".
If Nyom Gus has ways and likes to share accounts of Ven. Ñāṇavimala, which are not occupied by monks making their livelihood by serving with stories from the sages, such would be surely of benefit for many (btw, since Nyom asked, that's the reason why there is nothing to find from Ajahn
Chan's nephew . Many make a living on the reputation of their teacher and "parents" and just imitating their kind in outwardly appearances).
Nyom may try to get in touch with Ven.
Nyanadassana who might be in reach, living without family, friends, relatives and he might be also interested to get in touch with Ven.
Hasapanno , who might once lived the highest live, possible inspire Sir to get not caught in a replacement-family.
He also might enjoy to read the short story about Sister
Uppalavanna . But: if he likes to body-witness the meeting with those have left home, there is no other way as to leave it by oneself fist (even if just temporary). There is no other ways to do that, no shortcut, no support of what ever upanissaya one would have in the sphere of ordinary goodness (
guṇa).
A sign of one who has changed his kindship is that there is no more obligation toward his former relatives and all of what he gives in that direction is purely out of compassion without any bond or obligation. What Sekhas (those already in training) still have is a obligation toward the family of the Noble Ones, their Theras, teacher and also toward the offspings of this relation. As for an Asekha (one beyond the training) also this has become to a pure matter of compassion, beyond duty, beyond obligation and there is no other person (or kind similar to him), behind the foremost father, the Buddha, the
Sanghas father Ven. Maha Kassapa, treasure and blessing of the Sangha.
My person leaves here for his alms round. Don't hesitage to raise what ever question and my Nyom be sure that there are less finding their ways into this hermitage here and even more less to enjoy the dwelling far away from commonways.