According to the Dhatu Samyuttha, I think, only the people with similar characteristics can build up a successful relationship.(Like the the wise monks live with Sariputta thero, ascetic monks live with Mahakassapa thero, vinayadhara monks live with Upali thero, ...etc.)
So what's the problem not to meet? Possible ones tendency, not willing to leave a long maintained home?
All what one could lose by letting go is rebirth or? Where does one like to go or become what?
A famous forest monk? It's really not so that others put one in a prison of desire, tanha. Where is the problem? Who likes to protect whom?
(and yes, lay people introduced here, would say "lok majas" wordly "Lord owner" here and there is no fear to give respect to each other under monks as well, in good groups)
One should never forget that great laypeople with much devotion, or great disciples, or even great servants are a blessing for one formal in a higher position.
Khmer monks like to Burma, Thai to Sri Lanka, Burmese...
And what, aside of simply not dwelling with "
allergy", if good investigated and known, by the Buddha, if introduced, would Ajahn Chah say?
MANGE
The Buddha said, “Monks, did you see the jackal running around here in the evening? Did you see him? Standing still it suffered. Running around it suffered. Sitting down it suffered. Lying down it suffered. Going into the hollow of a tree, it suffered. Going into a cave, it felt ill at ease. It suffered because it thought, 'Standing here isn't good. Sitting isn't good. Lying down isn't good. This bush isn't good. This tree hollow isn't good. This cave isn't good.' So it kept running all the time. Actually, that jackal has mange. Its discomfort doesn't come from the bush or the tree hollow or the cave, from sitting, standing, or lying down. It comes from the mange.”
You monks are the same. Your discomfort comes from your wrong views. You hold onto ideas that are poisonous and so you're tormented. You don't exert restraint over your senses, so you blame other things. You don't know what's going on inside you. When you stay here at Wat Nong Pah Pong, you suffer. You go to America and suffer. You go to London and suffer. You go to Wat Bung Wai and suffer. You go to every branch monastery and suffer. Wherever you go, you suffer. This comes from the wrong views that still lie within you. Your views are wrong and you hold onto ideas that are poisonous in your hearts. Wherever you go you suffer. You're like that jackal.
Once you recover from your mange, though, you can be at ease wherever you go: at ease out in the open, at ease in the wild. I think about this often and keep teaching it to you because this point of Dhamma is very useful.
Is it the heartwood of the Buddhad teaching that someone, a savior might come one day? Or that one can liberate oneself by following a path, the Gem?
It's such a subtil mythos, that old days have been better, or. Why than did one wait and still hopes one comes, having missed a chance long time ago already?
And every morning and evening chanting "timeless..."
Doubt and ingratitude, especially to ones own many sacrifices done, to be blessed to still see traces, blessed that the words have been so long transmitted, by so many, even if "just sacrifies" for their ancestors, or for oneself later. Some even simply tried to imitate to keep it alive, maybe also for later...
One does not know if not leaving home but seeks for another house, fearing (possible rightous) to be not supported, gain "bad" "parents"...
Who made one to come here, Deva
gus ?
Can anyone force Deva to decisions?
Why beings take birth, even in most worse existences and circumstances? Who forces one to go back home again?