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Posted by: Peasejoye
« on: August 07, 2018, 04:51:33 PM »

I received from your post. It was very helpful to me.
Posted by: Dhammañāṇa
« on: March 01, 2018, 09:08:24 PM »

Shortly my person saw a person writting, that he finds it ugly if one enters someones sphere and speaks possible harsh words.

My person found that it was something importand to be considered in regard of possible ill-will or unskillful intention. Especially if just expressing such as frustration to others.

At next I thought, sad that ones does not adress such directly toward the target but expresses such elsewhere.

So aside of the sample by paradox sample and the possible "misfortune" one could have if associating with "favor" makes, not doing their "duties" keeping one from wrong deeds, fellows or followers who do not criticize, what do you think, is it proper to enter someone else resistance and confront him in a way he could not deny to be told?

If, what whould be a possible reason and what a possible effect?

(let some attention be given on vaṇṇā macchariya, reputation-stinginess, and would a person, if possible attentive of ways other may think, require nevertheless verbal approaches?)

In the certain case there is no ugly to be seen, but just big space to let ones assuming give a lot of unskillful mindstates arise and that, if not worked out on stage, it does not lead to clearency and release but carries a lot of doubt and upcoming remorse with it.

If in a very childish pattern, it's not easy to see through defilement.

What do you think Guest ? A general "no go" thing, such direct confronting?

Atma is not sure if literary found as speak of the Buddha, but one who gives one a challenge, even if a smart "enemy", is better than, let my person say, just consuming friends, not to speak if in company of fools giving into your faults, you might not see, even praise, "real enemies".

Namo tassa bhagavato arahato sammā-sambuddhassa

(3) "In four ways, young householder, should one who flatters be understood as a foe in the guise of a friend:

(i) he approves of his friend's evil deeds,
(ii) he disapproves his friend's good deeds,
(iii) he praises him in his presence,
(iv) he speaks ill of him in his absence.

So is it wise to be generally annoyed if facing such approaches, that one get's rebuked in the middle of his resistance, asked things possible ashaming if adressed?

Isn't it not better if being always aware that there are possible wise around seeing clearly one actions to strive for no place for right critique, no matter where one might be or act? Not denying the governing principles and be steedy reminded on their presence?