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Posted by: Dhammañāṇa
« on: July 20, 2022, 06:42:12 AM »

Maybe Nyom dadati finds detail elaboration on Respect and Veneration , being one of the 10 kinds of meritorious deeds as a useful inspiration, as Namasami acts actually as door to the border area of the Noble Domain.
Posted by: Dhammañāṇa
« on: July 19, 2022, 06:15:43 AM »

Posted by: dadati
« on: July 19, 2022, 02:14:24 AM »

Vandami Bhante  _/\_ _/\_ _/\_, thanks a lot for the detailed explanation.

I am really glad you answered my question :). I thought you missed the question and I did not want to "force" it.

When I meet in real life a Venerable or an image of a Venerable then I usually silently bow and put my hands together like you shown in the icons.

But I couldn't do it online when you welcomed me so I rather kept silent. I felt it was not right to just say "Hello" or something similar I know. Sorry for that.

I am really happy you directed me here :). I feel really blessed to get here, thanks a lot.
Posted by: Dhammañāṇa
« on: July 17, 2022, 06:21:02 AM »

Nyom dadati asked my person, so put into related topic.

Quote from: Nyom Dadati
What is the right way to greet you?

There aren't any demands, Nyom, and how ever feeling inspired. How ever, as people, if related to the Gems, make use of the occasion meeting a monk as reflection of the Sangha, and/or firm honor toward an individual, expressing veneration, honor or gratitude, making themself ready to receive, show respect by body and speech.
Most here use the expression of "Vandami Bhante" meaning something like "I am bowing down to Venerable" and add  _/\_  _/\_  _/\_ .

Some explainings as well as other common ways usual within Buddhaparisas are found in this topic.

It's a very good topic, yet already a destroyed in the modern world, as it's the door for ones path and also for long-life, honor, happiness and strength, doing proper paying respect and even toward that/those worthy of it.

* Johann : btw. good if adding face, and let know a little of oneself, so that others could approach and great Nyom proper as well. Some hints here , yet of course a liberal matter, no demand.
Posted by: Dhammañāṇa
« on: March 06, 2017, 02:16:17 PM »

Aramika   *

Ein oder mehrer Beiträge wurden hier im Thema abgeschnitten und damit in neues Thema "Kambodschanische Grußformeln " eröffnet. Bitte scheuen Sie nicht davor zurück, etwaigen Rat oder Kritik dazu mitzuteilen.  Viel Freude und Inspiration auch im neuen Thema. Anumodana!

One or more posts have been cut out of this topic here. A new topic, based on it, has been created as "Kambodschanische Grußformeln " . Please do not hesitate to claim or give supporting hints.  Much joy and inspiration also in the new Topic. Anumodana!
Posted by: Dhammañāṇa
« on: January 12, 2017, 12:02:54 PM »

Quote from: Upasika Norum
Nowadays, some people call the young monks "Lok ta" (maybe from the habit), some call Lok mchas (from pitaka), and some call Lok Bong (venerable older brother) or Lok p-oun (venerable younger brother) because of their age.
Njom Norum, only uneducated and not informed people do so, its actually very respectless, since age is no matter in regard of pabbajitās and virtuose people. Its very usuall today, put do not follow, since such way of adressing shows that one does not have really faith in the tripple gems.
As the Buddha told, there are 4 thongs one should be careful of, even if young and small: a fire, a snake, a young soldier from good family and a young recluse. Dahara Sutta: Jung

So a properway, even if just 8 years, is to adress with "degun" (Gütiger, "de" maybe origined from french), "lok machas" (Ven. Lord, Sir) or "Lok ta" (Ven Grandfather), but the last is actually familary and better not, so one gets not attached as being owned.

In regard of adressing each other, Norum, Moritz, since you do not really know each other and aslo not the virte for now, both do good to adress one stage above the only age depending classification. So Norom is good adviced to call Moritz Boung (großer Bruder) , or Lok Boung (verehrter großer Bruder) and Morits would do best in calling Norum, Lok Srey (ehrw. Frau) oder Boung Srey (große Schwester)

Njom Moritz, you are already more Khmer (khemā, land or person with virtue and at peace) as most Khmer would see and you yourself. Just be careful that you do not become just a normal nowaday Khmer, who is simply attached to a certain identification.

Its good to see this topic, and its good to have participator who actually recognice paying respect, enjoy it, support each other in making it perfect, beeing of respectful nature is one of the real treasures a person can own and very seldom in this world.

Mudita
* Johann to Moritz offtopic: (As long as there is even the smallest chance, Atma does not give up, but one needs to know that Atma can not create such for others. Also a comfortable easy maintainable Zimmerpflanze, even a Kaktus dies. Its not sure if there will be any of this arround any more. Actually Atma, as it looks, is the only or the last Tudong monk as far as the messages and views reach. So what would be more worthy to give up and for whom? It always sounds very conceit colored and self lifting, but those are simply facts for now and anicca as all other sankharas. Norum and many other, actually do not know whom or what they meet and easy mix appearance with certain perceptions one has. You have never met and the chance is very, very small to meet such a ugly and disturbing person again as well such a gatering and place. What ever one maintains, unterhaltet, will survive for one. That is something very importand we should think of and here Atma comes back to the topic. )

In Cambodia its like in the late gone days of the Church. People will constantly pay respectand ask for forgiviness, on and on. Doing wrong, using Siladay like Christians go the Church... people think that the ways of the world, to make one happy by bowing down, so that one is beloved, counts also for the law of nature. Actually its creating much confusion and is not good karma, if one even knowingly respects of what is not wothy to respect.

The more one urges people to real generosity, Silas, concentration and real wisdom, the more people dislike it and prefer those who are tell: "Oh, don't worry, we are all like that. We are wordlings. Its normal to make wrong. " cheating people by telling them sweet things.

* Johann offtopic: gesprochen von Bart. Gestern dachte Atma, nun werden die Upasikas bald dem Moritz gemeinsam schnappen und ihm die Haare und den Bart stutzen  :) Khmer fürchten sich zumeist vor Leuten mit Bart und langen Haaren. Oder, wenn er sich weiß oder in Robe kleidet, verehren ihn als Brahmanischen Asketen.

Bach to topic, if Norum could share a bigger picture where also text is read able Atma would look through the text.

Since Namasakhar is something that needs to be made threefold, Atma would like to teach how to do. In Cambodia there are nearly no people who know and do it. Actually by doing it rightly, by body, speech and mind, one would be able to even reach the state of sotapanna which only this deed. Lets look if Atma can make even pictures or a movie to see the bodily part.

Its not taught anywhere and the usual is most a merely lazy following others.
Posted by: Moritz
« on: January 12, 2017, 04:41:18 AM »

No, no. No reason here to be beleidigt. Just mentioned to inform.

Okay, now I think I have learnt enough about these matters. ;)

Meanwhile I have nothing helpful at the moment here to contribute, in regard to the actual work.

I think I have caused Bhante to lose patience .

We will need some time to figure out if and how we can create a useful and helpful environment here for your work and to make others possible to join.

I hope you have no worries about it. (I am thinking about it in between.)

Jom reap lea

_/\_ _/\_ _/\_
Posted by: Norum
« on: January 12, 2017, 04:18:54 AM »

Today younger people, as most in Phnom Phen, have lost this kind of humble.
Even Atma was still a layperson in white, young and oldest, even monks called him lok ta (ven grandfather) out of high respect in regard of siladhamma and other habits.
Yes sure, i used to call Lok ta, but all the monks i faced were old enough to call like that. Nowadays, some people call the young monks "Lok ta" (maybe from the habit), some call Lok mchas (from pitaka), and some call Lok Bong (venerable older brother) or Lok p-oun (venerable younger brother) because of their age. However it is just the way of respect.
Thank you, bong srei (older sister), for explaining.
Actually, Chanroth is older than you. And you are older than me. And I also think, both you are older in knowing Dhamma. So I think it is good this way. :)

[me](You can see birthdate and other things when you click on a user name here in the forum, if they have given that information in their profile. I have not given my birthdate to the forum, because I don't want that the forum tells me happy birthday. But now I am 33 years old. :) ) [/me]

Sorry Moritz, hoffentlich bis du nicht beleidigt. Mit Bart kann ich schlecht schätzen, sorry brother.
So you are right to call me Bong Srey. However, I dont mind what you all call me.. just Norom or sister or something else...
I also dont want that they wish happy birthday, but telling age is just to let s.o knows and address correctly (esp. for Cambodian people, who always call rank with name :)
Posted by: Moritz
« on: January 11, 2017, 05:35:25 PM »

Thank you, bong srei (older sister), for explaining.
Actually, Chanroth is older than you. And you are older than me. And I also think, both you are older in knowing Dhamma. So I think it is good this way. :)

[me](You can see birthdate and other things when you click on a user name here in the forum, if they have given that information in their profile. I have not given my birthdate to the forum, because I don't want that the forum tells me happy birthday. But now I am 33 years old. :) ) [/me]

* Moritz You can call me however you like. I am just curious to understand this, and can now be using it sometimes in khmer maybe. Thank you for teaching me :)
Posted by: Dhammañāṇa
« on: January 11, 2017, 12:00:41 PM »

Sadhu and thanks for sharing a picture.

Here some offtopics from elsewhere to bb here on topic:

Quote from: ??
(*) I hope this is good and proper way of address, as Chanroth used such a way as well, I think :) please correct me if this is not right _/\_
Chanroth may be younger than me, that is why he calls me older sister. Cambodian people always calls older sister/brother or aunt/uncle grandma/grandpa to respect the older. In this situation i should call you older brother Moritz, and you call me just sister or younger sister :). It is the way khmer people address each other :)

Thats not finally right, Njom Norum. Giving the other an older titel is a way of respect. Since Chanroth highly respects your deeds, he does not call you younger sister but older sister even he is a little bit older maybe ever more into silas and very educated in Dhamma. To call one higher as the simply age would suggest is a very Khmer kind. Today younger people, as most in Phnom Phen, have lost this kind of humble.
Even Atma was still a layperson in white, young and oldest, even monks called him lok ta (ven grandfather) out of high respect in regard of siladhamma and other habits.
Posted by: Norum
« on: January 11, 2017, 03:36:34 AM »

Namassaami and Namaskara have the same meaning.
Namassaami is Pali word and Namaskara is khmer word. Both use in other to respect to Triple Gem (Buddha Dhamma Sangka) and Monks. It means like , 2 hands hold together and head bow down (tvay bong kum).
Jom reap sour use for lay people. There are many kinds of Jom reap sour.... the same age, younger to older, older to younger, higher position to lower position, ...
Posted by: Dhammañāṇa
« on: January 10, 2017, 10:38:27 AM »

Neat (ñāti) Njom deang lay, (everybody next of kin - which means every being actually)
 Upasaka Moritz,

When younger people (for example Moritz or Norum meets Lok jey [Ven. Grandmother, for woman who keep precepts and following the Dhamma, woman in white, even if they would be younger, if one is him/her not on that level or on the samen] Upasika Sophorn with: "chum reap sur, lok jey" ("respektful greetings, Ven. Grandmother") would great older, older would replay "reoug dai tvai preah", with means "lifting (folding) the hands to bow before the superior (merits of someone, or in respect of tht Buddha) " and maybe add also neang (niece) or kmui (nephew), or even "gon" (child), and if there is a respect worthy (higher Sila training) of the younger, she would maybe also add "lok" (venerable) befor nephew or niece.

So the Greating is not only a paying respect, but also a kind of way to find out where one stands and where others are. Knowing this according to the Dhamma well and being in a sociaty which actually respects what is worthy to respect, is a way to walk together to a better an increasing of right view.
Best learned or even possible learn able only if one owns the "mangala mutamang" (highest blessing) to be part of such a sociaty and to respect of what is worthy to respect it self is also a highest blessing.

People not used to it and if also have a lot of defilement (a big personal belief) do not like such and seek for ideas of equality and in this way, do not have any refuge in this world, do not know whom to follow and would even have a hard to join such ways of social behaviour, cut them of those following the Noble Ones.

Atma thinks that this topic is also perfect for Njom Sophorn and Njom Norum, since they do now life in areas where such is nearly extinguished. And by explaining others one keeps the learned alive and is practicing it.

Not sure if both know the teaching: Eine Tür zum Dhamma -Respekt in buddhistischer Theorie und Praxis (cklick en for engl.). Even it is colored with some Thai culture, it will be a joy and encouragement for both and also for their families if they forward it.

As the Buddha sad, so we are informed in the Dhammapada about this:

Namo tassa bhagavato arahato sammā-sambuddhassa

Māse māse sahassena,
yo yajetha sataṃ samaṃ;
Ekañca bhāvitattānaṃ,
muhuttamapi pūjaye;
Sāyeva pūjanā seyyo,
yañce vassasataṃ hutaṃ.


The Story of Thera Sariputta's Uncle  

While residing at the Veluvana monastery, the Buddha uttered Verse (106) of this book, with reference to a brahmin, who was the maternal uncle of Thera Sariputta.

On one occasion, Thera Sariputta asked his uncle the brahmin whether he was doing any meritorious deeds. The brahmin answered that he was making offerings to the value of one thousand Kahapanas every month to the Nigantha ascetics, hoping to get to the Brahma world in his next existence. Thera Sariputta then explained to him that his teachers had given him false hopes and that they themselves did not know the way to the Brahma world. So saying, he took his uncle the brahmin to the Buddha, and requested the Buddha to expound the Dhamma, which would surely take one to the Brahma world.

The Buddha said to the brahmin, "Brahmin, an offering of a spoonful of alms-food to a bhikkhu would be much better than your present offering of one thousand Kahapanas to your teachers.

Then the Buddha spoke in verse as follows:

Verse 106: Month after month for a hundred years, one may make offerings to the value of a thousand Kahapanas; yet if, only for a moment one pays homage to a bhikkhu who has practised Insight Development, this homage is, indeed, better than a hundred years of making offerings .

At the end of the discourse, the brahmin, who was the maternal uncle of Thera Sariputta, attained Sotapatti Fruition.

So Abhivādanaṃ is actually really powerful and one failing here is actually failing the root of the Dhamma.

So to bring it to a very worldly level of truth, visible fir every one with eye sign, here an Anumodana (sharing of merits, praise)

Namo tassa bhagavato arahato sammā-sambuddhassa

Abhivādana-sīlissa
   Niccaṃ vuḍḍhāpacāyino
Cattāro dhammā vaḍḍhanti
   Āyu vaṇṇo sukhaṃ, balaṃ.


For one of respectful nature who
   constantly honors the worthy,
Four qualities increase:
   long life, beauty, happiness, strength.

Some audios attached
Posted by: Dhammañāṇa
« on: January 10, 2017, 08:50:29 AM »

When younger people would greet older, older would replay: "lueog dai twai preah",  was etwa heißt, oder bedeutet: "erhebt (faltet) die Hände, um sich vor dem Erhabenen zu verneigen", sozusagen eine Anerkennung, Ermutigung, daß zu ehren, was der Verehrung wert ist, fort-geschrittener, erhabener...  als man selbst.

Und um hier ein Anumodana (Ermutigen, Teilen von Verdiensten, Anerkennen)  zu geben, diese Zeilen, passend zum Thema, im Anhang.

Namo tassa bhagavato arahato sammā-sambuddhassa

Abhivādana-sīlissa
   Niccaṃ vuḍḍhāpacāyino
Cattāro dhammā vaḍḍhanti
   Āyu vaṇṇo sukhaṃ, balaṃ.


For one of respectful nature who
   constantly honors the worthy,
Four qualities increase:
   long life, beauty, happiness, strength

Etwas was man nicht nur glauben braucht, sondern, wenn man aufmerksam ist, überall beobachten kann.
Posted by: Moritz
« on: January 09, 2017, 01:33:26 AM »

That is actually "namasakara", paying respect. This is a more usuall word in daily use in Cambodia for it, Moritz. Atma does not know the origin for now, but seems to be from namo again and maybe sankhara, willingly body and or mental Formation, Gestaltung,  to have all three done, bodily, verbal and mental kusala deeds.
Thank you Bhante. I was assuming similar.

* Johann : Do not stress you to much. Actually everybody tries to make what possible anyway and for the most, there is a lot to do aside of most skillful.

I am not stressed. Just interested trying to learn maybe some nice ways of friendly greeting. :) Thank you.

_/\_ _/\_ _/\_
Posted by: Dhammañāṇa
« on: January 09, 2017, 12:50:18 AM »

That is actually "namasakara", paying respect. This is a more usuall word in daily use in Cambodia for it, Moritz. Atma does not know the origin for now, but seems to be from namo again and maybe sankhara, willingly body and or mental Formation, Gestaltung,  to have all three done, bodily, verbal and mental kusala deeds.

* Johann : Do not stress you to much. Actually everybody tries to make what possible anyway and for the most, there is a lot to do aside of most skillful.